why my wife is never wrong

March 28, 2009 at 7:36 am | In husband, spirituality, wife | 5 Comments

argue“Language is not an abstract construction of the learned, or of dictionary makers, but is something arising out of the work, needs, ties, joys, affections, tastes, of long generations of humanity, and has its bases broad and low, close to the ground”  Noah Webster

Noah Webster was an American lexicographer, textbook offer, spelling reformer, word enthusiast, and editor.  He has been called the “Father of American Scholarship and Education.” In the United States, his name has become synonymous with dictionaries, especially the modern Miriam Webster dictionary that was first published in 1828 as An American Dictionaries of the English Language.

More importantly, he was a husband to Rebecca Greenleaf.

You see, within Webster’s Dictionary lies a secret greater than the Da Vinci Code, The Bible Code, and the secret of the Holy Grail all mixed up in one.  It is a warning that has been placed beneath the eyes of every man that is familiar with his great name.  It is a gift that was purposely hidden inside a piece of random organized literature that would be sure to inhabit every household under the sun.  Its survival is crucial if marriages are to survive.  The secret has been right under your eyes, waiting for you claim it as your own. Continue reading why my wife is never wrong…

a shadow of my former self

January 25, 2009 at 10:24 pm | In husband, marriage, wife | Leave a Comment

shadow-81So I started reading Plato…

There are only three reasons that anyone (that is not being instructed to do so by his or her college professor) would start reading Plato.

One is because it provides useful and meaningful answers for the intellectual, moral, and practical problems of contemporary life.

Two is because it provides tools to make fundamental decisions about how to think, how to act, and how to live one’s life.

Three is because they enjoy having to read the same paragraph 617 times just so that they can spend the next 2 hours trying to figure out what the heck the previous paragraph meant. Continue reading a shadow of my former self…

convincing women with beer and guns

January 17, 2009 at 3:47 pm | In husband, marriage, wife | 5 Comments

top-secretThis one’s going out to all the ladies.

 

If you give me a few minutes and a few paragraphs I will take you on a journey into the deepest darkest corners of a man’s mind.  I may not actually reveal anything unbelievably profound, but I may validate your inability to explain what is and always will be, unexplainable about the inner psyche of a man.  Worse case scenario, you’ll know you’re not alone and that there are plenty of other women who stare dazed and confused at their significant other as they display the most questionable behavior ever imaginable. Continue reading convincing women with beer and guns…

spiritual back fat

February 28, 2008 at 11:58 pm | In fitness, husband, parenting, spirituality | 1 Comment

re-up (rē-ŭp’)

  1. To enlist again for service.
  2. To sign a renewed contract for employment or service.

4There are very few things in life that we don’t have to reenlists in to continue loyal service. Excluding death and taxes, it takes a concerted effort to continue the efforts that it takes to carry on whatever it is that we are involved in. There are specific moments in our everyday lives, that are often unnoticed but clearly defined (usually in hind site), where you decided to “press on” or “give up” on a desire. There is a distinct fork in the road during every one of these journeys that causes us to make a choice as to where our efforts would be better spent.

(I just read that paragraph 3 times and I am not sure that I understand what I just said.)

Let’s try it this way. Continue reading spiritual back fat…

love has an aftertaste

February 12, 2008 at 11:17 pm | In family, husband, love, marriage, wife | 4 Comments

trayI have yet to meet a person that actually likes eating Candy Hearts.

Even with that being said; once Valentine’s Day rolls around, I cannot seem escape them. I trip over the pyramids that are stacked to the ceiling of every retail establishment that I enter. I notice them on the counters of hostess stands across our great nation of eateries. I see them on every hard working Americans desk wedged between their Swingline Stapler and the chrome balls clacking on a string swing thing.

I have seen people grab them by the handfuls and transfer them to some alternate location. I have witnessed people fingering through the assortment to find one that perfectly fits their joke-of-the-minute. I have been a bystander and noticed the disappointing look on a persons face that was remiss in remembering what they experienced the last time they plucked one of these candy excuses into their mouth. Continue reading love has an aftertaste…

trick your wife into loving you more

January 19, 2008 at 1:52 pm | In fitness, husband, love, marriage, wife | 12 Comments

“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.”          —Robert McCloskey

Let the analogy begin:

OOS 1When (I repeat “when”) I workout regularly, I try to “trick” my muscles. I try not to do the same exercises, reps and sets for each and every workout. I try to shock my muscles into growing and adapting to new stimuli, so I make sure to always switch up my training routines, number of sets and reps for each training session. Also, I make sure to train at a high level of intensity and really push each set to positive failure (barely getting the last rep up).

I focus on increasing the weight lifted or the distance traveled. I know that if my muscles get used to lifting a specific amount of weight or run/bike/swimming a certain distance, then they will never want to get stronger or grow. I try to trick my muscles with different reps/sets and keep my intensity levels up high enough so they always are forced to make changes and grow. This is a proven fact and cannot easily be argued.

Some questions for me, as of late, have been based on this theory and how it pertains to my relationship with my wife. Continue reading trick your wife into loving you more…

the day i came out of the closet

December 1, 2007 at 10:41 am | In family, husband, love, marriage, movies, spirituality, the battle, wife | 14 Comments

what did he sayName something that you did but wish you didn’t.

Allow me to rephrase that in the attempt to better capture your attention and increase the chances of you reading on.)

Name something that you didn’t realize that you did until after you did it and looked back at how you potentially just damaged your marriage forever. Something that was so stupid and meaningless at the time, but possibly made a statement that it had the power to permanently scar the bond what you have built with your spouse to date. An action that was so poorly planned and so horribly executed that, if you showed it in slow motion, could be viewed as more painful than Britney’s MTV Music Awards extravaganza.

I will paint the picture for you, but I must warn you of a few things… Continue reading the day i came out of the closet…

ask and you shall receive…just not right now

November 14, 2007 at 2:09 am | In family, husband, marriage, spirituality, wife | 11 Comments

“Egg Hut Tree Hack Shin”

Have you ever concentrated so hard on what you were saying that it was unclear what you were thinking when you said it?

I know that sometimes I get so wrapped up in the obvious that I miss the actual message. I can be so concerned with my opinion and what seems logical, that I become vindicated due to my understanding of the given situation. I fight the flow of any other solution, never considering it plausible. Some people call that “Jumping to Conclusions”; others call it “Ambiguity”; but what it really is, is ”Stubbornness”.

“Sea Can’t Higher Dove Fit”

Other times we just had a different idea of what we were trying to accomplish. Our intentions didn’t quite match our impact. In some cases they were polar opposites. We didn’t take time to fully understand our possible audience and the results were disastrous. Continue reading ask and you shall receive…just not right now…

a greater tolerance for chaos

October 28, 2007 at 7:37 pm | In family, fitness, husband, marriage, spirituality, the battle, wife | 5 Comments

click to fight“Every time I have the opportunity to sin, I have the opportunity to bear fruit of the spirit as well. In a momentary flash; I can choose self-control or allow my eyes to wander. I can choose kindness or let a bit of vindictiveness leak out. What determines which one wins? In my life it’s largely the level of incubation.” 

                       —Ron Martoia , morph! ,  2003

Hmmmm…

I read this paragraph in Ron’s book a few years ago, and again a few days ago. Then I did my favorite thing I do when I come across something I want to absorb for a while; I went for a run. A “business as usual” run except I turn down my headphones to a faint mumble (for background filler only), and allow my kooky brain to grind up what I have learned and make it relevant enough to apply to something that I am going through at the moment. Continue reading a greater tolerance for chaos…

being a husband is not a “big deal”

October 3, 2007 at 11:18 am | In husband, love, marriage, spirituality, wife | 16 Comments

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for her.   —Ephesians 5:25

I have mentioned this verse in a few different blogs, but I regret (‘regret’ is a whole other blog) that I misunderstood its meaning early in my relationship with my wife. I think that I missed opportunities to practice this with regularity because I always waited for some extraordinary situation to apply my “man powers” to, so that I could save the day in true “Super-Husband” fashion. After all, Christ DIED for the church; so I was prepared to do the same for my wife. As a result, I always kept my ears open for signs of a natural disaster, terrorist attacks, or global thermo nuclear war. I was ready for the worst, and I knew I would protect my wife, at any cost. I was looking to make a “big deal” out of my efforts, and I was WAITING for it. Continue reading being a husband is not a “big deal”…

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