the dark side of the force
June 23, 2007 3 Comments
Did you sympathize with Darth Vader when he was trying to get Luke to see things his way?
Lord Vader was more than a dark, ruthless figure, out to capture, torture, or kill heroes to prevent them from thwarting the Empire. Vader was also a dad. A dad with a son. A son that he thought he knew best about. I like to think that Vader had one of two intentions (one equally as selfish as the other):
1. Ensure his (Vader’s) destiny would be fulfilled
2. To guide Luke to a life that was (in his opinion) equal to, or better than, the one he (Vader) was living
The catch was that Luke had a different idea of what he was to become. His path was quite different than his fathers. Actually, it was the opposite. Unfortunately for Lord Vader, he wanted something that his father could not provide any help toward. Luke wanted nothing more than to be accepted for what he believed to be right, and go about his business. A business that would all but erase any evidence of his Father’s existence. So Vader did what any dad would do…
He tried to “force” Luke to see things his way.
They debated, yelled, and traded limbs. Darth got more and more pissed and Luke got more and more confused. They were torn apart and were no comfort to each other as they struggled in their journeys to define their lives as individuals. Father and Son, torn apart because of an opinion. These guys couldn’t agree on a few little things, and they came up with the brilliant idea to try to kill each other.
Now back to a galaxy that is not so far away…
What do you try to force your kids to do? Is it attending a certain school they hate? Is it playing an instrument they would rather not? Is it participating in a sport they have little interest in? Don’t you think it would be better for them to do what interests them, as opposed to what you think interest them. (or more selfishly, what interests you). Do you think you are driving them to succeed? How long do you think they will keep it up once they are out of your parental stronghold?
Think of the percentages of people that actually become professional athletes, actors, musicians, beauty pageant winners, gymnasts, ballroom dancers, singers, etc… Now compare that to the amount of parents that swear that their kid is “the one”. So, what are you preparing your child for in the event that Simon Cowell doesn’t let them through to Hollywood?
Don’t get me wrong. When it comes to certain things, what you say should be “the law” until they know better. Like taking showers, brushing teeth, eating healthy, those ten commandment things, etc. I do, however, recommend that you encourage your child to be a “sampler” of life. Try foods before you say you hate them, experience a sport before you commit to it, and experiment with things before you dive into them. Help them to broaden their minds and educate themselves so that you can prepare them to make their own decisions when you are out of the picture.
“The Force” may lift up your hopes, but “you” have to raise your children.