sideline parenting (1 of 12) — how to get lucky

Parenting Advice from the World’s Greatest Coaches (with a Charlie’s House spin).

“Good luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”   —Darrel Royal (former University of Texas football coach)

How many times have you heard your children use the word “luck”? How often do they described someones good fortune as “lucky”? How quick are they to write off a success story to simple, dumb, “luck”?

I guess the examples are a bit similar to all of us, regardless of our age. We see Bill Gates, Sergey Brin, and Michael Dell and think how lucky they are to be included in the worlds wealthiest people. We watch Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods and Wayne Gretzky and cant believe how lucky they were/are to play a game for a living. Or, how lucky Brad Pitt, Ryan Reynolds, and Jason Stathem are for having great physiques, and how lucky the author of this blog is for having a smokin’ hot wife.

There are other, less dramatic, examples involving the same type of covetous behavior that we can fall victim of, as often as daily. Comparing ourselves to neighbors, friends, family, co-workers, or supervisors is a practice that is counter-productive to us living a live that could be more gratifying if we would just focus on the great blessings that we have been bestowed with.

I read somewhere (in a book begining with a “b”) that “God will never give you more than you can handle.”

People are quick to find comfort from these words because they are often looking for any reason to celebrate the fact that their misery could be sooo much worse. Like there is some consolation to not being the tallest horse in the glue factory.

Well that line of thinking has never sat well with me…

What if “God not giving you more than you can handle” meant that you have not worked hard enough to earn and appreciate the good that he has planned for you? What if your lack of understanding and appreciation for the great responsibility that comes with great power would actually make you worse off if you were a bigger success. What is you were not ready to be entrusted with what you desired from these worldly gauges you are measuring yourself against?

Here’s a good example of what I am talking about…

Why don’t we let a pre-teen child stay out past dark, drive, eat only food they choose, afford them an unlimited allowance, while allowing them to skip school, and sell their brother to the highest bidder on eBay (with no reserve)? I mean, gee, as far as they are concerned, that would really simplify their lives and make everything so much more fun. So, why don’t we just leave the decision making for their lives up to them?

Maybe it’s because you love them.

Understanding what you are truly ready to handle is one of the greatest challenges of mankind. It may seem too late to teach us “old dogs” some of these tricks…but think about our kids. Think about how great their lives could be if they understand that they can have whatever they work hard enough to get. Think about how awesome their journey will be if they look forward to what they can earn as opposed to what they can accidentally achieve simply by being in the right place at the right time. Think about the piece of mind that comes from understanding that there is no limit to what they can accomplish if they really want something bad enough and are willing to commit to it.

All of those people I listed above had to work for what they have. Most of them sacrificed other things in their lives to position themselves to better reach their goals. Some of them work harder now, than ever before, to maintain what they have accomplished.

One thing that they all have in common is that they didn’t sit around waiting for good fortune to fall in their laps. They didn’t rely on “luck”. They worked hard to prove that they were capable of handling the fruits of their labor. They put in the effort to prepare themselves so that, when the time was right, they would be ready to meet their opportunities. It is our daily challanges that provide the practice we need to help us prepare to be confident and courageous when faced by the worlds sense of humor.

And showing up prepared is magically delicious.


One Response to sideline parenting (1 of 12) — how to get lucky

  1. andrealudwig says:

    Hi, you have a great blog there. =) I detest the use of the word “lucky,” too. I wanted to say more but I have to take my daughter down to a friend’s house to take care of their dogs. More later! Check out my blog at


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